My 19 year old will not take care of her diabetes

My daughter is 19 years old. She was diagnosed at 13. She has had a very hard life. She is a 4 time cancer survivor…i have almost lost her more times than i can count. She knows the value of her life. But she will not check her sugar, she will not take insulin regularly and eats whatever, whenever. She has been in DKA atleast 15 times in the past 2 years. She thinks she can fix it most times and the other times she goes to the er. She was just on the news here in FL, she went into DKA mid flight her sugar at the er was 895…on flight they believe 900+. Inget so frustrated i kick her out. She will end up in a serious health situation and i take her back. She hasnt seen and endo in minimum 2 years. She has great health insurance…idk what else to do. I dont want to bury my kid.

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I’m so study to hear what you and your daughter are going through. Unfortunately your options are limited since she is an adult, but if she were ever unable to make her own decisions you might be able to assume guardianship. You might consult with an attorney to be prepared of that ever were to sadly happen.
I am not a physician but it sounds like she is suffering from depression, or at least it’s depressed about life. Counseling and medications can help with that but of course she must be willing to do it.
Does she know anyone else with Type1? That might help her and encourage her to take charge. She is welcome to join the forum - there are members of all ages and people are sometimes looking for others to connect with in their own age group. There may also be local groups in your area where people meet in person - check out the Resources tab at the top of the page. Enter your location, and you may find some to check out.
I will be praying for you both. :heart:

@Jennacolon23 Very sorry to hear of the issue with your daughter. Given her medical history, one can understand the apparent depression and need for counseling with someone knowledgeable of T1 and cancer issues. You’ve apparently tried the “tough love” approach, perhaps not for a long enough period, taking her back in, while natural for a parent, may not be the best approach. Sometimes people just have to hit rock bottom to get their own attention and sometimes it’s lower than anyone would think. Assuming you’ve tried talking with her (not at her, not in anger/frustration, but logically); if not, it can’t hurt, if so, then professional counseling, if you can get her to go is probably the only answer. Sorry I can’t be more help. If you find something that works, please let us know what seemed to work…

I’m sorry you’re going through this with your daughter. Based on the severity of the situation, I’d likely consult with an attorney to get advice on legal options. I hope you are able to find help and things improve.

Hi @Jennacolon23 . I’m checking in to see how things are going for your daughter and for you. Have her been any changes or have you been and to find any local resources?